Dating a woman 15 years older
Some women tell me they’d feel too insecure about their bodies to sleep with someone young, but when you operate on the criterion I do — that they have to be nice — you meet younger men who appreciate everything about older women.
Mariah Carey, 42, has had twins with Nick Cannon–that’s a 10-year age gap. But top of the tree, as ever, is Madonna, 53, who is at least considering a marriage proposal from her 24-year-old boyfriend, Brahim Zaibat.
“If she is fearful, insecure and doubting her merit, she will never be able to accept that her younger man loves her.” Winter adds that media reports about Demi Moore’s obsession with looking young are “the perfect example of how the ideal of youth and beauty can torture even the most lovely example of a modern-day woman.” The idea that one must maintain an illusion of youth to keep a younger partner is illogical. “It's an up-front buy that he's willing to accept, because he values the totality of who she is and what she brings to his life.” Talk about family planning.
When it comes to the subject of love we always hope that there are no real significant barriers to its success.
Culturally, the older woman/younger man dynamic is perceived as an oddity, or a fluke.
Fortunately, that’s changing as more older-woman and younger-man couplings make headlines.
As a woman over 35, I’ve never felt more desired by men in their late 20s and early 30s than I do now—moreso even than when I was that age. Pay no attention to the ol’ elbow-jabbing, wink-wink idea that cougars* are “more likely to put out and pay for everything.” Meh, that may be a reason a naïve man attempts to score with an older lady, but it’s hardly the reason a smart man enters a relationship with one.
So if you’re only seeking women in the 21-29 age range, let me tell you, you’re missing out. And by that I mean: her own career, her own friends, her own apartment, her own money.
As a result, my so-called casual relationships go on a lot longer than most people’s so-called committed ones.Actor Hugh Jackman has been married to Deborra-Lee Furness for 17 years. A recent article in magazine looked at a handful of real-life May-December romances, focusing mainly on those between older women and younger men.